Making Fuck

So, I've always wondered...just what is the difference between making love and fucking? I might be totally wrong, but I've always thought making love was slow and tender and well...loving. Fucking always seems to be hard and fast...raw. While I do so enjoy that quick-fire, dirty talkin', let's-get-down-to-business sometimes I crave that slow build and sensual orgasm. I think I want to make love...or make slow...or well make something.

When you pick up a romance novel (okay...they are a guilty (and sometimes really naughty) pleasure) the couple are hot and heavy and then at some point it shifts and there is this "magical" moment where they are supposedly fucking and then it becomes making love. I'm not one hundred percent sure I've ever been one hundred percent in love so maybe I've never made love. Help a girl out!

Are making love and fucking one in the same?
Can you make love with someone you're not in love with?
Can you fuck someone you're totally, deeply in love with?
What do you consider "making love"?

Don't leave me hanging here...